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Empty Nest: Opportunity Or Turmoil?

As you spend the years looking after children and making them your priority in life, the fact that one day they will be independent and fly the nest seems to be light years away. But then the day comes when your precious babies are grown and gone. For many, this adjustment is extremely heart-wrenching. It is not the first time and certainly will not be the last time that parents get disheartened at the sudden change in their lives. Don't worry. You can get through this difficult time.

One of the things that can make your child's move to a new home a little bit easier to deal with is to recognize that your relationship is still intact. This change marks the beginning of a new dimension to your relationship. No longer will it be one where the parent is in control of the child. Rather, the parent and child will be on the same level. Your child may still ask you for guidance on some things, but you will be surprised to realize that you are also beginning to consult your kids on major issues. This time around, the relationship is more on an equal footing, since you are both independent adults. It is nice to understand that your child is just as interested in and hungry for your love and encouragement, even if it's not delivered in the same manner that it used to be.

Take some time to look at the bright side. With your children out of the house, you have more time to done on your darling (and occasionally neglected) spouse. It?s hard to get time alone with children in the house. Now you have a chance to deepen your relationship with your significant other and really get to know each other on a more intimate basis. You have an opportunity to do all of the things that you wanted to do before, but couldn?t. Be creative and have some fun with your spouse. You might get some spontaneity and romance back in your relationship when or if your children leave. If you are a single parent, you can enjoy the same benefits. With all your free time, you can meet new people and make new friends. They could take you on new adventures you never would have considered with your little ones in tow. You might even discover a little romance along the way.

When you're a parent with small children at home, you have to put your child's needs first. Now you can serve yourself first, take care of your own needs, and cut nobody's meat but your own. You no longer have to put your own needs on the back burner. Finally, you have the chance to do everything you want to do. How about taking a trip! You can go anywhere you want. You can pick up a new hobby that you have always been looking to take up. No matter what it is, you can devote some time to making it happen.

Before you make any big decisions that will tip your world upside-down, you should take a few weeks or months to get used to your new life. Naturally, you should remain connected with your kids, because they may be having a difficult time getting used to their situation as well. It may take a while to adjust, so give yourself that leeway. Once you and your children are used to the new order of life, it's time for some excitement! Savor the new experiences and joys this aspect of life can bring. You did a great job as a parent preparing your child for life. The time has come for a new, exciting chapter in your life. Seize the day!