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It's important at first to introduce yourself as mom's friend. Also, not to show any type of physical affection around the kids. Let them get to know you as a friend of mom's and not as a potential dad. This is key because; the relationship may not work out with their mom. They shouldn't have the pressure to feel like they "have" to like you. If they do like you right off the bat, they don't need to get their hopes up that you'll be their new dad.

You will know when it's OK to start spending more time with her and her kids together and when it's OK to be affectionate and be their mom's boyfriend. If you think it's too early to meet her kids, then be upfront and say something like, "I like you or I like spending time with you and I'd like to meet your kids soon; hopefully you and I will work out but if we don't...I'd hate to upset your kids." This will show you care and should also make sense to her. If you don't want to meet her kids because you never intend on becoming serious, then either don't date her in the first place or end it. That goes more for dating a single mom than any other woman.

Third. Isn't it more difficult to date when a woman has to find a babysitter for most everything? Yes, but there's a good side. Since it is a little harder for a single mom to go out, you know she's probably not going out every night of the week, partying, dating several guys and she's probably more grounded and less flighty. Again, more attractive qualities, right? Just remember though, if you've asked her out, chances are she's done a lot to prepare. Not only in finding a babysitter, but extra time to get her child/children ready for the babysitter, make dinner, find them an activity to keep them happy, etc., not to mention paying the sitter. So, It's definitely not cool to cancel last minute.

Fourth. Is a single mom looking for someone to provide an income? The answer to this is again, yes and no. Every woman wants a man who has a good job. Why? It's an attractive quality for a man to be responsible in life and be able to provide for himself and someday, a family. In most cases a single mom is already getting by with child support or her own job or two. I'm sure there are some materialistic women who look solely for a wealthy man; however, you'll find it's not limited to the world of single moms.

Fifth. Will her children come before me? The love for a child is far different than the love for a boyfriend, so there never needs to be these type of feelings. Although the way she juggles kids/dating will definitely vary depending on the mom. In time, if you take the opportunities to get to know her child/children and honestly care about them, you will benefit in two ways. Relationship advice for women