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Clingy toddlers translate to exhausted parents. During this phase, you may experience guilt, frustration, and sometimes anger because you want to break away from your child so you can breathe.

Let us look at this clingy behavior through my 5-Step System.

Step 1. Connect I know when you have a clingy toddler, it seems like you are "over-connected". However, the steps in this system are the same for every age and in every situation.

With a young child, connecting means trying to put ourselves in their shoes. Step 2. Calm Your child is in a "panic" about the separation. For them to calm their panic, you need to remain calm. Remember, emotions are contagious, if you are calm and confident your child will calm more quickly and feel more confident. If you are hyper-excited, your child will quickly "catch" your hyper-excitement and become overly reactive.

Step 3. Listen You need to listen to your child's protest about separation. The way your toddler knows you are listening, is that you respond to their distress by preparing them for the separation. In my clinical practice, I teach parents to play a revised version of the game peek-a-boo.

Peek-A-Boo • Tie one end of a strand of yarn around your waist and the other end around your child's waist • Have your child "leave" by going behind a wall where you cannot see them and they cannot see you for a second • Quickly "return" into sight • Giggle with excitement when you find each other • Extend the time you are out of each other's sight • Extend the distance between you and your child • Move down a hall, behind the wall and quickly come back • Always express delight when you see each other again Whenever your child's resources are challenged, point out and comment on your child's success. Fresh Starts are essential. Your child is learning mastery of their world without you as their honing device for a few minutes. There is no judgment of your child with "good boy" or "bad boy".

Encouraging growth requires recognition for whatever effort you toddler made to cope with the stress of separation. The "good job" is recognition for whatever they accomplished on their project. "Wow, look at what you made." You want to reinforce your toddler's efforts to grow and manage distressing feelings. This trying developmental phase is the beginning of teaching good problem solving to your child.


helpful hints, click for source, Get More InfoChildren just want to be like their parents. Whether it is washing their toy car whilst you are scrubbing away at the family vehicle, or whether it is playing with their dolls whilst you are seeing to your new born.

If this is the case for you then I am sure you can relate to the times when you have sat down to use your laptop and your child has said that they want one too! Well what if you could get them a laptop? I promise you I am not crazy, there is such a thing as a toddler laptop which may just be the best toy you buy for your toddler in their childhood.

There are many types and styles of this toy available.